opencl: flash attention improvement (#25069)

opencl: flash attention improvement (#25069)

* opencl: rework FA kernel for f16 and f32

* opencl: flash-attention prefill prepass kernels

- flash_attn_kv_pad_f16    pads the tail KV tile to a BLOCK_N multiple
- flash_attn_mask_pad_f16  pads the matching mask tile
- flash_attn_blk_f16       classifies each KV tile per query block as
                           fully masked / mixed / fully unmasked, so
                           the main kernel can skip fully-masked tiles
                           and the mask lookup for fully-unmasked ones

* opencl: FA kernels for q4_0 and q8_0

* opencl: `set_rows` for f32 to q8_0/q4_0

* opencl: dequant kernels for q4_0 and q8_0

* opencl: add FA tile tuning table with override

* opencl: wire host side for FA

* opencl: q4_0 MoE tensors are also SOA'ed

* opencl: cosmetic fix

* opencl: refactor, also clarify some code paths in comments

* opencl: fix inifity for `-cl-finite-math-only`

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Co-authored-by: Li He <redacted>