Simplify and improve CUDA graphs through use of indirect copy pointers (#9017)

Simplify and improve CUDA graphs through use of indirect copy pointers (#9017)

* CUDA: Simplify and improve CUDA graphs through use of indirect copy pointers

Previously there was complexity in the CUDA graphs implementation due
frequently changing parameters to copy kernels associated with K and V
cache pointers. This patch simplifies by using indirection to avoid
such parameters frequently changing, avoiding the need for frequent
graph updates.

Fixes #12152

* Addressed comments

* fix HIP builds

* properly sync to stream

* removed ggml_cuda_cpy_fn_ptrs

* move stream sync before free

* guard to only use indirection with graphs

* style fixes

* check for errors

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Co-authored-by: slaren <redacted>