cuda: Don't crash when querying memory on device with no free memory. (#25157)

cuda: Don't crash when querying memory on device with no free memory. (#25157)

If a Cuda device has no or limited available memory, the actual call
to cudaMemGetInfo() itself can cause a fatal crash due to a cuda out
of memory error (there is not enough memory to actually query memory)

This causes an issue because we query memory for all devices at
startup even if the user isn't trying to use the device for inference.

Fix this by making the error non-fatal and assigning zero total/free
memory to the device. This will have the downstream effect of the fit
algorithm not trying to put any layers on it, which is desired outcome
vs hard crashing.

this also prevents crashes in cuda enabled builds when user explicitly
passes '-dev none'