vulkan: Add fusion support for RMS_NORM+MUL (llama/14366)

vulkan: Add fusion support for RMS_NORM+MUL (llama/14366)

* vulkan: Add fusion support for RMS_NORM+MUL

- Add a use_count to ggml_tensor, so we can detect if an output is used more than once.
- Change the ggml-vulkan rms_norm shader to optionally multiply by another tensor.
- Add detection logic and basic fusion logic in ggml-vulkan.
- Add some testing support for fusion. Rather than computing one node at a time, allow
for computing the whole graph and just testing one node's results. Add rms_norm_mul tests
and enable a llama test.

* extract some common fusion logic

* fix -Winconsistent-missing-override

* move ggml_can_fuse to a common function

* build fix

* C and C++ versions of can_fuse

* move use count to the graph to avoid data races and double increments when used in multiple threads

* use hash table lookup to find node index

* change use_counts to be indexed by hash table slot

* minimize hash lookups

style fixes

* last node doesn't need single use.
fix type.
handle mul operands being swapped.

* remove redundant parameter

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Co-authored-by: slaren <redacted>